Winners stay focused!

I purchased a used book from my last estate sale titled, You Can You Will by Joel Osteen.  Within the pages I read this morn, I jotted notes of what I need to do to enable me to do more!  To win as winners do!

All of us are busy, no doubt.  However the key to success is staying focused.  The book encourages one and all to place a picture of what you want in full view throughout your home, office, vehicle, wherever you’ll see it daily.

He mentioned Jim Carey, writing a $10,000,000 check to himself for services rendered at a time when Mr. Carey drove an old car up the mountaintop to overlook Los Angeles.  It took several years of constant focus to bring about that ultimate goal for Jim Cary, but he certainly did it!

You Can You Will stated too, that if a friend, family member, work acquaintance wants you to do things their way, thus squelching your dreams, let them go!

My youngest, Ashley and I were chatting this morning as she drove to work, hands free of course, stating I’m amazed at how people just drive to work without taking a new lane, never going for the new opportunity.  I added that is how you move forward faster, by always seizing that moment of aha, taking you so much further than your peers.  It’s just the way Universal law works.  She concurred.

Within my years of learned wisdom I too stated a similar example.  I had a lady acquaintance for fifteen-years that pushed, nudged and tried to shove me to do certain things her way.  I fought her subconsciously all along, rarely doing what she wanted because I knew in my heart, her limiting dreams were not my dreams.

When I purchase a new car in 2014, she wanted to ride in it.  I took her for a spin when she asked how do you do this?  You have four kids too and no husband.  I knew all along what the difference was.  It was and is how I think.  When I want something, I put out my feelers, researching my goal, printing or sketching out the pictures in my mind.  Not how I’m to reach it because Universal energies guide me each and every time. I calmly said well, it only takes a bit of thinking BIG, not small.  I always see the glass half full and not half empty.  Moving forward to each and every wish, dream or goal is why I’m able to achieve what I want.  But with a caveat that the Universe takes care of the how.

I had to move past this negative wall of discontent and let her go January of 2015.

When I have a lot, I share.  When the coffers are a bit low, I dream more and things magically follow the yellow brick road.

My dream, for years was to write and get paid for it.  Since my father taught me how to read and write by age 4 1/2, it’s been my delight to find pens and paper, scribbling thoughts and sketches of what this or that is to be.

January 2015, was a major turning point for me.  I decided then and there that I would follow my writing dream!  Wow!  Within the week an email arrived from a major publishing company, Hay House, announcing an author’s cruise to Alaska with five seminars along the way.  I didn’t know how I’d pay for it, but the Universe did!  I promised myself that I’d pay cash for the whole thing, including a one-week trip to visit my son Caleb in California before returning home.

Viola!  I had several large estate sales that magically paid the entire trip plus money to spend any way I desired along the way.  I was the last to speak my truth, on the last seminar day, about how I make estate sales easy for those that are left behind.  They wanted a story, which I included a story of seeing a recently departed husband, feeling his angst for the wife he left here. (See  Low and behold, author & coach Cheryl Richardson and the CEO of Hay House liked what I said, giving me a book deal March of 2016 with the published book out late summer of 2017!

How’s that for allowing the universe to guide me?  I never thought of a cruise to Alaska ever!  Especially on my own!  But I knew that since I loved and read all the metaphysical books from Hay House I could, that a lady they roomed me with, would also be metaphysically well read and it would be a great match! And so it was.  We remain great friends calling each sis!  Sweet!

One note I jotted when I used to clean others new homes, in my twenties, read like this I stand in this foyer, breathing in all that is rich knowing that one day I too will build my dream home, and it is so.

I had no idea at the time that my dream home would arrive at age 45, but it did!

Even earlier, at age seventeen I met a very nice gentle man, nine years my elder who asked me out numerous times.  I hesitated because you see, I was not as worldly wise as he, which frightened me.  He drove a Mercedes, which I adored.  He kept on asking and eventually I went out with him.  We dated for about a year, off and on.  Not truly committed to him, I dated others, which he knew of.  During that year he asked me to marry him three times of which I declined.  However, I kept mentally stating I will have a Mercedes too and I’ll have it in the year 2000!  I never thought how that would happen because I was one of six children and had no college education of any kind back then.  I persevered learning a college education does not necessarily make one rich.  But seeking a goal, moving towards it, does!  I bought my first Mercedes January 2000!  I now own my third Mercedes.

Magic, yes!

Universal energies at work even though we may not realize it.  Indeed!

There’s many many examples of how staying focused, caused me to reach goals and dreams all of which are in The Secret of A Widows Vision….the vision from within.  It’s my intention that Hay House will publish this as well.  (I just need to send in my book proposal and let the magic begin again!)

Stay focused… win!

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New beginnings….

How many times have we all began again?

Today, March 27, 2016 is my 64th birthday!  I’m beginning a new career side by side with my 27-year estate sale career and proud of it!  (Hmm….27 also equals 9, interesting!)

Yesterday, I woke with this brief poetic thought and jotted it down.

At sixty-three, I’ve come full circle. Thus when added together 63-equals nine.  (Within numerology’s sphere, nine is a full circle of representation.)

At sixty-four, which equals ten – I’m beginning again!

To be sure, I’m beginning again!

Last year, at sixty-three, I decided then and there that this was my year!

I’ve raised and nurtured my babies to adulthood and now it was certainly time for Mom to become whom she wished and longed to be all this years!

A published author!

I set aside old acquaintances that drained my positive energies.  This one simple step opened my energetic writing field to new heights!

I saw a notice from Hay House for the Speak, Write and Promote author seminars and jumped on it!  It was a cruise to Alaska, a cruise I never thought of taking, but I took it!

Leading up to the August 2015 cruise, I tenaciously sat at my computer early each morn, to write.  This was after I gathered all of my sixty-five hand written journals. Twenty-years of thoughts for various books titled in the headings.  These, I combed through locating all written words for a book I call The Secret of a Widows Vision – The Vision from within.

These notes are all moments in time, when the grand Universal energies synchronistically connected my thoughts and desires to events, that blended all I wanted and or needed at that time.  The `how’ I rarely questioned and now never do.  The powers-that-be knows exactly what and when I should do this or that.

I just allow the journey.

For six months I organized each synchronistic thought into a chronological blend of energy.  I thought….this book was the one that might catapult my publishing deal.

However, the grand Universe knew otherwise!

Over the week long cruise to three ports of call to and from Alaska, five seminars were in place for aspiring and already self-published authors to learn the `how-to’ get it done process.  Very inspiring and thought provoking!

I so wanted to speak my truth, however the powers-that-be knew better.  Four seminars came and went.  I honed my intro.  Would I get to speak my truth?

The final session was upon us.  I raised my hand to speak and glory be, I was called upon!

Before me stood another lady, speaking her truth at the microphone.  She, however didn’t wish to change her title so that others would know what the book was about.  This was requested by the CEO of Hay House.  No, she stood firm in her conviction.  I still don’t recall the title.

My turn.  I will certainly take all suggestions, I thought, from the CEO, Reid Tracy and Cheryl Richardson-live coach, authors.

Intro:  Hi, my name is Victoria Gray.  Over the past 26-years I’ve handled estate sales in and around St. Louis and the surrounding areas.  I make estate sales easy for those that are left behind.

Cheryl stopped me, turned to Reid and said, perfect!  Right?  He nodded in agreement.

I was ecstatic!  I had all week to hone my intro and now they loved it!

All were asked to raise their hands if they understood what Victoria does.  All raised their hands.  I did it!

Simple, you think?  No, not at all.  When a new beginning is intended, extreme intention and thought must be at the fore.  It just must.

Questions abounded from Reid and Cheryl.  Fortunately and just prior to taking the stand, I asked a new friend, Gloria, to take notes since I knew I’d forget most that was stated. She took great legible notes!

Reid added, wouldn’t it be great if you could tell stories and add pictures of your sales.  Can you tell us one?

Sure, I told one about seeing an entity and knew it was the husband.  It’s detailed within a blog here entitled Entities & Orbs.

I rattled it off and all sighed.  Reid asked, can you recall other stories?  Yes, I have 65-journals to date that house the stories.  He almost jumped off his stool with excitement as I recall, of which others stated the same at dinner that evening.

He asked too, do you have any pictures?  Do you have a following?

Oh yes.  I take pictures of every sale.  And I have over 20,000 estate sale followers.

What a great platform, they both exclaimed!

Cheryl, chimed in….you need to begin blogging of such and you need a website for Victoria Gray.  I stated I have a site for estate sales, but would certainly create another.

She added, you help so many.  I think you need an assistant to help you, you’re so busy!

Yes, busy with the business of helping others ease the angst of what-to-do with aunt Harriet’s items and helping me at the same time.

We all left excited, carrying a host of items to follow for our book submissions.

Diligently, I created a forty-page submission.  A 7-minute video and finished adding stories to a book I created over ten years ago titled Estate Sales Made Easy.  Sending all in on January 16th, three weeks before the February 8th deadline.

Would they publish me?  Time marched on.  I continued my estate sales excited to know who won the publishing contract.

March 8th, 6 a.m. I woke excitedly.  I checked the Facebook page for an update.  No update of who won.  By 10 a.m. I spoke at a real estate office of approximately fifty-people of estate sales and how my crew and I have helped thousands of families over the past 26-years, answering many questions along the way.

Fifteen minutes later, I sat down to listen, however something told me to check my email and text.  Lo and behold I received a text from an out of state number to please call it.  I wrote back, I’m in a meeting, what does it concern?  I receive many out of state calls from family members for sales.  I then opened my emails and found one from Cheryl Richardson.

I was the winner!!!  A radio show, a live webinar and an ebook soon to come to promote my book, Estate Sales Made Easy.  Hard copy to come later.

I never even spoke of The Secret of a Widows Vision….I didn’t care!

I won!!!

New beginnings, indeed!

Full circle, absolutely!

Change your path!

Do what you want!

The Universe is listening….

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Because I can

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Since the beginning of time, women have been suppressed.  No doubt about that.

We plan out our strategies.  What will we do next to make our lives happier, safer and more peaceful?

The attitude, because I can, is something I’ve said often and live by.  Freeing and changing any suppression I may have previously had.

Monday, March 7th, I journaled this memory….

When I built my first house in 1997 and before we moved, my daughter Rachel, had a final party at my very nice 1950’s brick ranch.  Within that party a woman from a former church my family used to attend asked this puzzling question.  This house is so beautiful.  Why would you want to move?

My answer, because I can! 

When I calmly and matter-of-factly blurted that out, I felt exuberant.  Thinking, of course I can!  Why not?

Freeing this no-longer-suppressed-woman to accomplish whatever I desired!

Everyone can, if first we dream!  Then move forward building on that dream!

A dream of mine came true just this past Tuesday, March 8th!

I’ve been journaling for 20-years tenaciously every morning, creating 66 journals to date.  Within these pages spawned several books.  One of which is titled Estate Sales Made Easy, which is based on a 27-year business I own and run.

I attended five seminars for aspiring authors, from the Hay House publishing Alaskan cruise contest, August, 2015.  What an fabulous cruise aboard the Holland America, Noordam.  Then after submitting all the required information and a video for Estate Sales Made Easy to Hay House, I learned Tuesday, that I’m the one they chose to publish!  They added – “We’d like to publish your ebook, and have you do a radio show and live web event. “

Wow!  How’s that for thinking and writing, because I can!


Author Florence Scovel Shinn wrote a book titled The Game of Life, December 1925.  What an excellent read!  Full of her wisdom!  Here’s a few excerpts I live by.

“I now dig my ditches deep with faith and understanding and my heart’s desire comes to pass in a surprising way.”

“You attract the things you give a great deal of thought to.”

“I have seen the law work in the most astonishing manner. For example: A student stated that it was necessary for her to have a hundred dollars by the following day. It was a debt of vital importance which had to be met. I “spoke the word,” declaring, Spirit was “never too late,” and that the supply was at hand.  That evening she phoned me of the miracle. She said that the thought came to her to go to her safe-deposit box at the bank to examine some papers. She looked over the papers, and at the bottom of the box, was a new one hundred dollar bill. She was astounded, and said she knew she had never put it there, for she had gone through the papers many times. It may have been a materialization, as Jesus Christ materialized the loaves and fishes. Man will reach the stage where his “word is made flesh,” or materialized, instantly. “The fields, ripe with the harvest,” will manifest immediately, as in all of the miracles of Jesus Christ.”

“Getting into the spiritual swing of things is no easy matter for the average person. The adverse thoughts of doubt and fear surge from the subconscious. They are the “army of the aliens” which must be put to flight. This explains why it is so often, “darkest before the dawn.”

“When a student is able to let go of his problem (cast his burden) he will have instantaneous manifestation.”


I spoke and wrote the word of authoring my books with a huge publishing company of which many sloughed it off as if silently saying, yah sure.  But that old fire inside kept saying….because I can!  And so it is!

Follow your dreams….because YOU can!

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Thought – the seed the subconscious waters

Walt Disney, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison etc. their life paths certainly show us how thoughts become reality.

My father, Wm. Victor Gray – a barber aboard ship and fresh out of the Navy took a barber course to further his knowledge.

Could he make it as a barber?  He certainly enjoyed it.

His brother Evert did, then perhaps I can too, dad thought.

His thought created the desire to learn more and to move within that thought-desire.

Subconsciously dad thought he could, thus this thought-action spawned the course. After graduation, this course inspired him to first obtain a job at his brother Evert’s 9-chair shop in the Hampton Village area in St. Louis, MO. There dad met Stan Musial cutting his and his son Dickie’s hair often.

Again, thought spurred dad to open his own barber shop on the corner of Concord Village Rd and S. Lindbergh on the second floor above a grocery store. Sure at first he was hesitant to branch out since by that time he had married and the second child, Victoria, was on the way. But he soldiered on!

This location was great, but soon he outgrew it. Dad saw and heard the men sitting on the stairs to the barber shop, telling jokes and laughing while awaiting for their turn. The location was great but he knew he had to locate a larger place.

He scouted out various places to begin his next shop, finding a building on the corner of S. Lindbergh and Lemay Ferry. When he spoke to the previous renter, also a barber, the man said he couldn’t make a go of it there and he was the third barber that moved out!

Hmm dad pondered should I take it or not?  The location was perfect! At a busy intersection. He wondered why his predecessors failed to succeed.

He heard a little voice spur him on. Go ahead, give it a try! You never fail when you try.

He listened and opened his barber shop with just he as the barber.  Within three months he had to hire another barber and within another three months yet another barber was hired.  Here he met and cut Whitey Herzog’s hair and others from the team.

His thought-desire became a roaring barber business of which he never stopped till age eighty-one.

He told me the walls roared with jokes and laughter. He said Honey, I’ve had the best job anyone could have ever wished for! Before I knew it the day was over and I had a blast!

He added, I got what I asked for!IMG_8128

So listen to your thought and dreams. That’s where your inspiration and desire come from. Act on it and see what dreams are fulfilled…by thought.

Thoughts are powerful when listened to!

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PS…you might want to read an excerpt from A Widows Vision (on this site) and see how thoughts became things for me, too!